Hello: I Hate You, Goodbye: I Love You

What happens with hurt and anger when someone leaves us or passes away? Do we at that moment stop hating that person? Do all the moments of torture and pain get overshadowed by the feelings of sadness and guilt?

See, I believe as human beings we were instilled upon us a sympathy gene. Above all feelings we are able to sympathize with those that we hate the most and that have mistreated us.

When someone leaves or passes away, whatever they did or did not do when they were around momentarily disappears, if not entirely (that depends on the person). We feel sad that they have left or have passed and therefore we focus on the good memories shared with that person.

But why do we wait until they have left us to focus on the good? 

I want us all to look at the person we have endured pain, anger and stress by and say "I care for you" and/or "I love you". Now is the time to be sympathetic toward that person, even if they don't deserve it. You will feel a sense of relief and less guilt if they were to leave. Why wait until their death bed to silently think those thoughts? Be the bigger person today.

Hello: I love you, Goodbye: I will always love you.